Day 8: A Blessing, A Curse, or Victim mode?
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“It’s a Blessing and a Curse to feel the emotional pains of others so deeply,” is stated by every newly self discovered Sensitive/HSP or Empath before they learn to take responsibility for their own unique gifts.
When I was first developing myself as a Sensitive/Empath, I remember feeling this way, having this mentality. I felt like I was so susceptible of all the emotional pains and struggles of everyone I bumped in to or that surrounded me – and I remember feeling like I wanted everyone to just have the courage to endure through their struggles and to face their truth and to love themselves, love themselves enough to heal (you know that fixing feeling we all have as potential healers in the making - the save the world mentality).
Empaths that go unhealed within themselves wind up playing this “fixer” or “rescuer” role and whenever they see someone who NEEDS them, they immediately step into this role...most of the time without even realizing it's a band aid for their own issues (I mean why look at your own issues right? When you could be out helping the world). They feel the burden of having to save everyone and love everyone until they learn to love themselves. Although this is such an honorable thing to do – anything that is done sacrificially (or to the determent of self-care) we think of as being noble and selfless.
But when it comes to the Sensitive or Empath, how can something we feel CURSED by also be considered a selfless act or a blessing to another? If we are cursed by something it is therefore “forced” upon us and something not of our own natural efforts. When we feel or think we are cursed by what and who we are, we are actually allowing ourselves to be a victim of our own set of unique gifts and it can cause a lot of distress and confusion not to mention imbalance because we do not understand our gift and we haven’t taken the steps we need or focused our efforts on finding the truth of our gifts, of self-healing or of fully empowering ourselves as Sensitives/HSP/Empaths and Healers in the making.
When it comes to being an Empath and you begin to look within, you will most likely find a lot of abuse (whether it's of self or abuse from others), a lot of self destructive behaviors and a lot of fixing, going the extra mile or caring for others that do not care for or love their selves. We think that we are here to help others and heal others that cannot help or heal themselves and this is why often awakening Empaths do believe their gift to be a curse. What they don't realize is that even though we believe we may be helping or "fixing" people, we actually might be enabling them to keep repeating the same patterns. But this is not a curse, far from it, it is a Self Reflection, it is our own victimizing mentality and highlights what changes need to be made in our own lives.
What happens is that, we attract into our world that which we need to see and experience in order to bring into our own awareness that which needs to be focused on within OURSELVES. We pre-plan all of our experiences so it's natural to attract exactly what we need to help ourselves, the trick is to become aware early because we get the light nudge experience of what needs changing, then we get the heavy hand of change AND then we get the four by two to the head that helps us to REALLY become aware in the most forward way possible in order to help us make headway in our own lives.
Any Sensitive/HSP or Empath that believes their gifts to be a curse is simply misguided and hasn't had that four by two yet ;) or is blind to their own Self Care and Self Healing needs. Many Sensitives have wounds that need tending to before they can fulfill their greatest purpose as a Healer to the masses (if that is what they choose to do of course). It's through healing these wounds of self that allow the Sensitive to be of even more service to others through life experience and the healing process that took place afterwards.
I hope this has brought you some understanding and insight into your own life or maybe even some awareness, which is the catalyst for change and in turn change is the catalyst for growth, which is what we are all doing each and every day of our lives.
In Happiness and Good Health,
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