If you are attracted to the title of this blog, or have ever typed into a search engine "Traits of an Empath", "What is an Empath" or even been inquisitive about the word and it's meaning chances are you are an Empath.
Empathy is the ability to read another's energy. To be in-tune with, understand people from hidden depths and sometimes know more about them through reading their energy then they do, whether you realise you are reading their energy or not.
Many empaths are unaware of how this actually works, and have long accepted that they were sensitive to others and just managed their lives around this gift.
Being an empath is when you are affected by other people’s energies, sometimes in a good way and other times not so much, as well as having an innate ability to intuitively feel and perceive others. Your life is unconsciously influenced by others desires, thoughts, physical pain and moods. Being an empath is so much more than just being highly sensitive and it’s not just limited to peoples emotions. Empaths can recognize physical sensitivities and desires of the soul, much like a spiritual urge, as well as just knowing the motivations and intentions of other people (empaths are especially good at knowing when people are lying to them).
As an empath you are always open, so to speak, to process other people’s feelings and energy, which means that you really feel, and in many cases take on the emotions and sometimes the physical symptoms of others. Many empaths experience a lot of symptoms of others that they are not even aware of, and take them on as their own such as chronic fatigue, extreme mood swings, or unexplained aches and pains that seem to come from nowhere on a daily basis. Many a time without my awakened empath knowledge did I walk into a shop and come out with the feeling of a cold or flu only to get home and it was gone. I always put it down to...oh it must have been hay fever or sinus issues. Or the many times i'd pick up people's headaches and think they were my own and again magically they would just disappear. Most likely these are all things that can be contributed to outside influences and not so much yourself at all. Essentially as an empath that has no tools to help with protection, you are walking around in this world with all of the accumulated karma, emotions, possible physical pain and energy from others.
Empaths are more inclined to pick up another’s feelings and then project it back without realizing its origin in the first place. This is a major factor with my son. He is an empath just like me and the gift within him is an extremely strong one! He does okay in school, but socially in the playground well that's another story. The empath within him takes whatever feeling that is projected at him and in most cases it's been anger or bullying from other children and project's it back at them x10!!! Unfortunately for him children feed off reactions and so project more of it towards him till he explodes in anger and gets in trouble because of it. It's important especially with an empathic child to help them understand what's happening and provide them the tools they need to mingle with other children their age and not take on another's feelings, if we don't our empathic children struggle and school can be so tough for them and their little sensitive selves.
Talking things out and through is a major factor in helping to release emotions in the learning empath. Empaths can develop an even stronger understanding of their own energy and that of another's by talking it through and being able to see that in fact they have taken on the emotion rather than it belonging to them, so that they can find peace in most situations. The flip side is that empaths may bottle up emotions and build amazing barriers sky-high around themselves so as to not let others know of their innermost thoughts and/or feelings. This holding in or withholding of emotional expression can be a direct result of a traumatic experience in an empaths life it could be as small as simply being told as a child, “Children are meant to be seen and not heard!” or it could be as large as living within an abusive situation.
Without a doubt, this level of emotional withholding can really affect one’s health, for the longer one’s thoughts and/or emotions aren't released or given the room to breathe, the more power that builds behind them. The thoughts and/or emotions can eventually becoming explosive, if not crippling as I have seen in many an empathic child, not to mention the adult empaths in this world. The need to express oneself safely and truthfully is a form of healing and a choice open to every single one of us. To not do so can result in becoming run down and could lead to a breakdown of the person and result in mental/emotional instability or the creation of a physical ailment, illness or disease. Because of this many empaths are treated for mental illnesses, children are put on medication.
It is all about knowledge and understanding and the more each of us has, the more we can structure our lives to incorporate what is needed as an empath and our ability to live in a world filled with all types of emotions and energy.
©Rebecca Fox R.M.