I don't know about you but I can't tell you the amount of times i've wanted to pull my Empath child out of school.
I know in my heart he would be so much better off for not being in the school environment, surrounded by a neverending supply of emotions.
When you look at life through the eyes of a child today, the ability to stay balanced in their emotions is an enormous task.
All of these things factor into their behavior, their emotional levels and their ability to learn on a day to day basis.
Now I'm not saying by any means that this is ALL children, but it is a reality in a lot of households.
What is this doing to our empathic children? Well in my experience with clients children and my own, it's creating devastating effects. Empaths are being bullied for having wild emotions that they are struggling to control and where is it coming from? Their surroundings, it's exhausting and it's heartbreaking to see these beautiful, sensitive, wise beyond their years children suffer and it is in some cases like my son's suffering. He gets bullied on a daily basis, left out, forgotten and in his words "I feel invisible unless they are being horrible to me, then I feel nothing but sadness".
So I ask myself, why is he still in the school system? Well, because the standard line that comes out of people's mouths when I say I'd like to pull him out is "What about socialization?'
Do you know what?
It's because of socialization that I want to pull him out, that I want my child to excel in the area's he loves. Where are those areas? Well my son is musical, he's creative, he has a passion for the outdoors for learning and researching till he gets the answers of anything that interests him.....for my son that's space and nature.
Where does this stupid myth come from that socialization (meaning, “surrounded by a large group of just one’s peers”) is SO IMPORTANT for a child’s education? It’s not based in reality—nowhere in real life are humans condemned so clinically to such massive doses of rigid, age-banded human interaction.
In fact as an empath and having worked with many, there is a reason why there is a natural progression to wanting to be alone, to enjoy the silence and your own company....why? Because as empaths it's hard to integrate into a world where people are so set in their ways, where emotion is up, down and all over the place, where stress, worry and monkey mind rules people's worlds.
What is this doing to our new generation of empaths, or sensitive children and how do we integrate such sensitive souls into the everyday school system without them getting lost in the cracks, falling by the wayside and getting bullied to the point of depression and sadness ruling their lives instead of joy and happiness?
What are your thoughts, experiences on homeschooling or how our sensitive children are handling the school system? How do you feel about the need for socialization? Is it needed, can our children socialize in other areas of their lives such as after school activities and groups, is that enough?
Love and Warm Blessings to you all
Rebecca Fox. R.M.
A look into one child's FANTASTIC take on the schooling system.